Stop Waiting Around for Him — His Indecision is His Decision

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Stop Waiting Around for Him — His Indecision is His Decision

Ladies, how many times have you presented your man with the question of where is the relationship is going, only for him to pussyfoot around the topic and give you some half-hearted excuse saying he isn’t sure, or something like that?

It may have happened more often than we’d like to admit, but because we are totally smitten by someone, we’ll accept this and just wait it out and see where things go. What we don’t realize is that we are doing a huge disservice to ourselves by doing that.

Let’s rewind a bit.

You met a guy online and have been talking to him for a few weeks before finally deciding to meet up. Everything seems to be going great and you even agree for a second date; however, when that second date comes around, he’s a no-show. He gives you some lame excuse like his car wouldn’t start, he had to wait for the cable guy or had to work late. Whatever the excuse, the truth of the matter is, it could have just been a line because he didn’t want to go out with you—you never know.

Dating can be confusing, even when things seem to go well. There are countless opportunities to misunderstand the signals the other person gives off and it is really important that you have the ability to give someone the benefit of the doubt in instances like this. However, when it comes to dating, you have to protect yourself and be wary of everything someone tells you. Sure, we want to think that everyone has the best intentions, but sadly, that isn’t always the case.
You have to be able to take a step back from the situation and look at it with honest eyes. This means if he wanted to be with you, he would. He would make every effort to make the date or at least make it up to you. He’ll give you straightforward answers when you ask him things about the direction the relationship is going. He’ll even have the sense to tell you when things aren’t going in a positive direction.

We understand that being objective and unbiased toward this type of situation can be incredibly hard, especially if you are really into the guy you’re seeing. Since it is difficult, you’ll probably be more likely to ignore the warning signs and red flags that you’d otherwise be able to spot, all because you want to believe that he does want to be in a relationship with you.

Yeah, when you see it talked about like that, it does sound a bit crazy doesn’t it?

The truth of the matter is that you have to be able to look past your own emotional attachment to the person and look at things as they are presented to you. Be logical. What is really keeping him from being with you? Is he making a genuine effort to be with you? Does he say one thing but his actions say something completely different?

Once you are able to look at his actions objectively and they don’t align with the crap he tells you, we’re sorry to tell you this, but he’s just leading you on. He might be doing this because he doesn’t know how to tell you that he doesn’t want to see you anymore, or for some other reason. But, regardless of the reason, the truth remains—if he wanted to be in a relationship with you, he would. You can’t change his mind, and you shouldn’t have to. Your happiness should be your main goal. If he is trying to be a smooth talker and keeps stringing you along, clip that string and go your separate ways. You deserve to be happy, not led on.