Stop Chasing the Wrong Men So the Right One Can Find You

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Stop Chasing the Wrong Men So the Right One Can Find You

Think about all the time that you have wasted worrying about men. When you take a look at the bigger picture, it’s not all that important.

It’s a scary thought, right?

We can’t help but feel some tiny spark of hope whenever you meet someone new for the first time. You don’t know them well enough for them to get under your skin, so, all in all, it’s a positive encounter. You’re left sitting there, wondering if anything will happen between you two.

Sometimes things do happen. Maybe they ask for your phone number. Maybe they’ll send you a text and make small talk. Maybe they’ll get right to the point and ask you out on a date. Sometimes you might even get down and dirty with one another.

But, most of the time, these off encounters lead to nothing. Disappointing right? Of course, it is.

Dating is all about numbers and chance. The more men you talk to, the higher your odds of finding someone that you may have a connection with. In theory it makes sense, but in reality, it can’t work because you keep getting sprung on someone you’ve only known for a few minutes.

Yeah, sparks may have been flying when you first met and maybe even on that first date, but if a few days have gone by and nothing more has happened, chances are nothing will happen in the future.

When it comes to dating, it’s never wise to place all of your chips on one hand. You’ve got to remember not to make someone your top choice when they’ve only made you an option. You have to be open to the chances of meeting someone new until you’ve had “the talk” with someone and your relationship status has changed from “single” to “in a relationship.”
When you focus all of your energy on one man, others are going to pass you buy. You are going to miss out on great opportunities, you’re going to stop going out and enjoying new people, and you’re going to avoid being at the moment.

If you’re always thinking about why that one dude isn’t texting you back, then you’re going to miss that hottie that’s been eyeing you from the table across the room.

A man who is really interested in you isn’t going to be interested in playing games. They won’t make you feel like a last-ditch effort to find a partner, they are going to make you feel like you’re the only one they’ve had their eyes on. It is these kinds of men that you should be hoping to meet.

So, say goodbye to that sketchy guy who takes forever to respond to your texts and put yourself out there again. Except, this time, realize that the world is full of possibilities. You could waste your time chasing men, but the right one will chase you.