Have you ever been in a situation where you are in the presence of an attractive woman, and as much as you want to approach her and ask for her number, you just can’t. You aren’t alone. Many men simply do not know how to broach the subject without seeming like a creepster.
The truth is, some men simply have a natural ability to hit it off with the fairer sex. For the rest of the male population, they are their own worst enemy. They concoct this fear that the when they ask for her phone number, she’ll respond negatively, she’ll be rude, or she’ll give you the old “1-800-F***-You” game. Do you want to know a little secret? If you are a gentleman and you approach her like a person and not some kind of trophy piece, she will be flattered and give it to you with no problem.
Do you want to know a secret? Once you work up the nerve to talk to her and you are interested in her, don’t ask her for her phone number. Yes, you read that correctly. Don’t ask for her number. Instead, ask for an email address. By doing this she will be more likely to give it to you because it isn’t as risky as a phone number. She doesn’t have to worry about answering your call when she is out with her friends and she doesn’t have to avoid that awkward first conversation.
Now, you may be wondering how do you even broach the subject of an email. It’s simple. Just be forthright and ask. Go up to her and ask a simple question: “Excuse me, do you happen to have an email address?” When she asks you why, just tell her that you’d like to send her a quick message.
As you hand her the pen, she will most likely to give you the information because you’ve piqued her interest. On the off chance that she responds with a little bit of resistance and says something like “I don’t even know you,” or “I don’t give out my information to people I don’t know.”
Instead of giving in and backing off, make a joke out of it. Tell her that you will only email her every day instead of five times a day like you intended. This will lighten the mood and she’ll most likely be amused and give you her address.
Now that you’ve gotten her information, resist the temptation to ask her out on a date! Don’t start planning your lives together and don’t run to your friends telling them about her. You want to take it slow and you can completely kill the vibe by jumping right into a date. As soon as she jots down her information, thank her, pocket it, and get out of there!
Like calling her, you may want to wait a few days before sending her a message for the same reasons.
You don’t want to come off needy and too presumptuous.