It may not seem like it, but being single can be a pretty fantastic time in life. In today’s culture, being single is often seen as the journey, while being in a relationship is seen as the destination. That is definitely not the case for everyone, and really, you shouldn’t see it as just the time you spend waiting for the next knight in shining armor to come along. You might even have married friends who try to give you their best “being single” advice, but when it comes down to it, the best advice is just to enjoy it.
There are plenty of perks to being on your own, and you should spend your time delighting in them. Here are some great ways to get started enjoying your single life.
1. Learn About Yourself
In the age of constant connection to technology, it can be easy to get caught up in social media, staring at the lives of others and wishing we were more like them. Instead of mooning over your friend’s vacation photos, take that time and dedicate it to getting to know yourself better.
There are tons of ways you can try to learn more about yourself: Read a self-help book you’ve been interested in, try a new hobby, and explore a new exercise program. Really, the more you put yourself out there and try new things, the more you will know about yourself.
2. Travel
Traveling solo can be a unique and immensely pleasurable experience. You get to call all the shots about where you want to go and what you want to do. Go someplace you’ve never been but always wanted to explore, and just do it. Eat what you want, do what you want, see what you want.
3. Date. A Lot. And Enjoy Every Minute of It
The best way to figure out what you want out of life is to see what is out there. Dating is not just about finding a spouse; it can also just be a really fun and positive experience if you live in the moment and try to find the fun in every date.
Dating frequently can also help alleviate any feelings of desperation or awkwardness you might experience. You aren’t looking for “the one,” you’re just looking for someone to have a good time with for the evening.
If you decide at some point you do want a relationship, dating experience can be a great way to figure out and fine tune what you’re looking for.
4. Learn to Like Being Alone
There is something to be said about being comfortable with yourself in any situation. Self-reliance and independence are not skills that come naturally to everyone, but the more time you spend in your own company, the more likely you are to feel more at ease in other situations where you end up flying solo.
5. You are Totally Free
When you are single, you can make the choice to say “yes” to whatever opportunities come your way. Maybe you want to apply for a fellowship in a different state, get a job in a different city, or volunteer to do service in another country. Nothing stands in your way, except the will to try! So go out and enjoy your single life and don’t let anyone deter you.