The chase and the game you play when trying to woo a potential partner can be an intriguing and exciting period in your life. It can make you feel wanted, attractive and completely on top of the world. So, when you want to continue this game and tell a guy no, but he gives up, it can make you wonder why he didn’t try again. There are quite a few reasons for this and they are relatively self-explanatory.
No Means No
Everyone knows the meaning of no, children, animals, there is no discussion to be had on the intricacies of the word. If you have told a guy that you’re not interested in him, he is not going to try to win you over. Some may do, but do you want a creepy Robin Thicke kind of guy telling you ‘I know you want it?’ Many people understand that there are boundaries that you don’t cross in this world.
Furthermore, unless he’s arrogant he is going to assume that you’re not attracted to him. Why would someone want to put themselves through that sort of rejection repeatedly? It is typically guys who make the first move and the less pain and humiliation felt the better.
Lack of Arrogance
Guys who typically like to play a game of chase when trying to woo a woman tend to be very arrogant. Not every single one, but it is a particularly dominant trait with this sort of behaviour. The idea of she can’t possibly not want me, I’ve just got to change my angle.
The likelihood is that this guy honestly believes that you’re not interested, you know because you told him you weren’t. This is the kind of guy you want in your life, someone who is down to Earth and humble, who is likely to bring you happiness and joy.
Is that the Kind of Attention You Want?
Imagine that this guy did try again, that he was constantly chasing after you until you decided that he had done enough. Is that how you want to prove your worth? It is easy for someone to relentlessly harass and push someone to go out with them, true respect comes after that point. He’s not respecting you or proving how beautiful and desirable you are by hounding you, it simply becomes an obstacle to overcome.
The type of guy who takes rejection with humility and grace is more likely to be the kind of guy who will respect you and show you your true worth. The joy you gain from someone’s companionship is a lot more wholesome and realistic when you understand and get to know each other. Sadly, by saying no you may have ruined that chance.
These are some of the reasons why he didn’t try harder, it is more likely down to respect and honest admiration for you as a person. If you are genuinely interested in this person, let them know, tell them you were stupid and hopefully you can begin to build an incredible relationship.