Men Reflect on Some Reasons Why They Believe They are Still Single
For those who have been single for a while, you’ve probably asked yourself on several occasions why you are still single. For some, that answer is because it is by choice; but, for those who would much rather be dating someone, we asked them why they think they are still single.
Some of the responses showed a number of reasons: some were afraid of being rejected, some choose not to make an effort into meeting women, and some aren’t confident in how they look.
Finding someone that you can form a healthy relationship with is hard, but being afraid or lazy shouldn’t be the reason why you’re single. Here are some answers to why some men think they are single.
Micah – “I don’t know what I’m looking for in a partner. The thought if being in a committed relationship sounds good, but I can’t seem to find anyone who makes me actually want to commit.”
Joshua – “I’m terrified of rejection, of failing, of not living up to someone’s expectations of what they want in a relationship or a partner.”
Lou – “It’s by choice. I’ve made a lot of bad decisions in my past that I am still trying to sort out.”
Bryan – “I don’t try. All I do is go to work and go home.”
Lamont – “I’m single because instead of trying to flirt or hit on someone, I sulk in the corner and keep to myself. Or, I wait for someone else to make a conversation with me… Which I’ll simply answer with as few words as possible and then remain quiet. Needless to say, I need to work on my confidence a bit.”
Sean – “My standards are so high that I wouldn’t date anyone with standards that are low enough for them to willingly date me.”
Jeremy – “I’m too shy to approach a woman and I’m not attractive enough for a woman to approach me.”
Kareem – “It helps if I think the women I’m talking to is into the same stuff as female family members. It helps for me to act normally. It also helps to realize that I’m not going to be sleeping with or marrying every woman I talk to.”
Terrance – “If I don’t think I’ll marry you, why would I date you?”
Marcus – “After my first girlfriend dumped me after a 5-year relationship, forgot how to start a new one. Maybe I’m just hung up on how it ended, or the very fact that it ended at all… I thought she was the one… Man, I was wrong.”
Ben – “My previous relationship was horrific. It was so toxic that it put me off of dating. It’s been two years and unless I meet someone who knocks my socks off, I wouldn’t trade my independence for anything less.”
To all of these men, we feel for you. Relationships can be taxing on you and it could feel like you’re never going to find someone new. However, Berice has some words that perhaps we all need to keep in mind.
“More often than not, people date because they don’t want to be alone. If the right person comes into my life, I’ll loosen up but I’m not going to change who I am just so I have someone in my bed. If and when that person comes into my life, the relationship will be natural, easy, and not forced.”