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# 1  2/2/14 12:25 AM

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Hey peeps,

Here is my dilemma ....Would love to hear your opinions

For the first time in my life I am very attracted to a + 10 year older than me. He has energy of a 25 yrs old and certainly plays like one !

Suddenly I am afraid something might happen to him. I know all rational about living the moment, enjoy every min but....I am concerned to get too attached.

What do I do? Do I take distance not to get hurt or I let him in ?

Would love to hear your experience, thanks!

# 2  2/2/14 12:32 AM

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chaosmaker This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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A-Woman wrote:

Hey peeps,

Here is my dilemma ....Would love to hear your opinions

For the first time in my life I am very attracted to a + 10 year older than me. He has energy of a 25 yrs old and certainly plays like one !

Suddenly I am afraid something might happen to him. I know all rational about living the moment, enjoy every min but....I am concerned to get too attached.

What do I do? Do I take distance not to get hurt or I let him in ?

Would love to hear your experience, thanks!

I would go with it,  illness can occur at any age and if he's clean living and takes care of himself then it's less likely.  I would let him in....he sounds like he is in really good health now and you could be missing out on years of happiness due to fear.

Go for it, 

# 3  2/2/14 12:32 AM

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.... " Carpe diem "....

# 4  2/2/14 12:34 AM

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You can't not do something for fear of what might happen somewhere down the line.  Any one of us could be taken at any time and in any case, even at 10+ years older than you he's hardly an old man.  A **** of something wonderful is better than a whole lot of something average.  Go with your heart and let it take you somewhere delicious

# 5  2/2/14 1:20 AM

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chaosmaker wrote:

A-Woman wrote:

Hey peeps,

Here is my dilemma ....Would love to hear your opinions

For the first time in my life I am very attracted to a + 10 year older than me. He has energy of a 25 yrs old and certainly plays like one !

Suddenly I am afraid something might happen to him. I know all rational about living the moment, enjoy every min but....I am concerned to get too attached.

What do I do? Do I take distance not to get hurt or I let him in ?

Would love to hear your experience, thanks!

I would go with it,  illness can occur at any age and if he's clean living and takes care of himself then it's less likely.  I would let him in....he sounds like he is in really good health now and you could be missing out on years of happiness due to fear.

Go for it, 

Thank you Chaos xx
He doesn't take care of himself   He really sucks every moment from life like there is no tomorrow

# 6  2/2/14 1:23 AM

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inhellbern wrote:

.... " Carpe diem "....

It is exactly his philosophy. I feel after all I have been trough I want some consistence  but he  really does it for me .

# 7  2/2/14 1:26 AM

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ScotsBird wrote:

You can't not do something for fear of what might happen somewhere down the line.  Any one of us could be taken at any time and in any case, even at 10+ years older than you he's hardly an old man.  A **** of something wonderful is better than a whole lot of something average.  Go with your heart and let it take you somewhere delicious

So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

# 8  2/2/14 1:35 AM

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A-Woman wrote:

ScotsBird wrote:

You can't not do something for fear of what might happen somewhere down the line.  Any one of us could be taken at any time and in any case, even at 10+ years older than you he's hardly an old man.  A **** of something wonderful is better than a whole lot of something average.  Go with your heart and let it take you somewhere delicious

So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

like they say, you never know what will happen tomorrow
so jump his bones and enjoy the ride besides 55 an it that old

# 9  2/2/14 1:40 AM

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A-Woman wrote:

ScotsBird wrote:

You can't not do something for fear of what might happen somewhere down the line.  Any one of us could be taken at any time and in any case, even at 10+ years older than you he's hardly an old man.  A **** of something wonderful is better than a whole lot of something average.  Go with your heart and let it take you somewhere delicious

So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

Fear is natural querida.  Anytime you give your heart to someone you take a chance but it can be so wonderful and if you don't let yourself be open to it then you'll never know what could be.  People are sent to us for a reason and what's the worse that could happen?  If it doesn't work out as you thought then you pick yourself up and start again.  You're a beautiful, strong woman and if all that is making you stop and think is his age then I say put the thought aside and follow your heart

# 10  2/2/14 1:43 AM

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rodsrule wrote:

A-Woman wrote:

ScotsBird wrote:

You can't not do something for fear of what might happen somewhere down the line.  Any one of us could be taken at any time and in any case, even at 10+ years older than you he's hardly an old man.  A **** of something wonderful is better than a whole lot of something average.  Go with your heart and let it take you somewhere delicious

So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

like they say, you never know what will happen tomorrow
so jump his bones and enjoy the ride besides 55 an it that old

I have jumped his bones   ....I want more of that .....it is not his age that bothers me it's he eats unhealthy and smoke cigars, really doesn't care . With that he is very exciting , unusual and know what a woman wants . Well at least this one

Would you get attached to somebody really doesn't care about his health?  I  can't do the **** thing with him...

# 11  2/2/14 1:48 AM

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ScotsBird wrote:

A-Woman wrote:

ScotsBird wrote:

You can't not do something for fear of what might happen somewhere down the line.  Any one of us could be taken at any time and in any case, even at 10+ years older than you he's hardly an old man.  A **** of something wonderful is better than a whole lot of something average.  Go with your heart and let it take you somewhere delicious

So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

Fear is natural querida.  Anytime you give your heart to someone you take a chance but it can be so wonderful and if you don't let yourself be open to it then you'll never know what could be.  People are sent to us for a reason and what's the worse that could happen?  If it doesn't work out as you thought then you pick yourself up and start again.  You're a beautiful, strong woman and if all that is making you stop and think is his age then I say put the thought aside and follow your heart

Grazie tanto !  You are so right.  It's so much easy to focus on my **** and work and forget the rest.... that means me ...
B ****

# 12  2/2/14 1:49 AM

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A-Woman wrote:

rodsrule wrote:

A-Woman wrote:


So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

like they say, you never know what will happen tomorrow
so jump his bones and enjoy the ride besides 55 an it that old

I have jumped his bones   ....I want more of that .....it is not his age that bothers me it's he eats unhealthy and smoke cigars, really doesn't care . With that he is very exciting , unusual and know what a woman wants . Well at least this one

Would you get attached to somebody really doesn't care about his health?  I  can't do the **** thing with him...

what you should do is give him a reason too look after himself better

# 13  2/2/14 1:51 AM

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rodsrule wrote:

A-Woman wrote:

rodsrule wrote:


like they say, you never know what will happen tomorrow
so jump his bones and enjoy the ride besides 55 an it that old

I have jumped his bones   ....I want more of that .....it is not his age that bothers me it's he eats unhealthy and smoke cigars, really doesn't care . With that he is very exciting , unusual and know what a woman wants . Well at least this one

Would you get attached to somebody really doesn't care about his health?  I  can't do the **** thing with him...

what you should do is give him a reason too look after himself better

Love your answer Rods .  Do you think a 57 yrs old can change his way?

# 14  2/2/14 1:57 AM

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A-Woman wrote:

rodsrule wrote:

A-Woman wrote:


I have jumped his bones   ....I want more of that .....it is not his age that bothers me it's he eats unhealthy and smoke cigars, really doesn't care . With that he is very exciting , unusual and know what a woman wants . Well at least this one

Would you get attached to somebody really doesn't care about his health?  I  can't do the **** thing with him...

what you should do is give him a reason too look after himself better

Love your answer Rods .  Do you think a 57 yrs old can change his way?

well you know as men a lazy pricks we wont do some thing if we don't have too
and if he has been on his own for awhile it may take time and a bit of give and take

# 15  2/2/14 2:01 AM

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rodsrule wrote:

A-Woman wrote:

rodsrule wrote:

what you should do is give him a reason too look after himself better

Love your answer Rods .  Do you think a 57 yrs old can change his way?

well you know as men a lazy pricks we wont do some thing if we don't have too
and if he has been on his own for awhile it may take time and a bit of give and take

Thank you

# 16  2/2/14 6:51 AM

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Enjoy the moment and if he really wants to go the distance with you, then that could be the catalysis for him to improve his lifestyle.

# 17  2/2/14 7:11 AM

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Well I don't think you have to guess my view. 13 years on me and I'm glad I didn't listen to anyone. Go for it sweetie and enjoy every moment.

# 18  2/2/14 7:12 AM

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A-Woman wrote:

rodsrule wrote:

A-Woman wrote:


So true and still so afraid ....

I know you understand exactly what I feel .  How do you let go ?

like they say, you never know what will happen tomorrow
so jump his bones and enjoy the ride besides 55 an it that old

I have jumped his bones   ....I want more of that .....it is not his age that bothers me it's he eats unhealthy and smoke cigars, really doesn't care . With that he is very exciting , unusual and know what a woman wants . Well at least this one

Would you get attached to somebody really doesn't care about his health?  I  can't do the **** thing with him...

ohhh...tricky one this HW.....i think i would suggest he gets a full medical to assess his health.....and then you can make YOUR decision  based on the out ****.....if he refuses....then i would walk away....coz he obviously dont give a toss about you.....

as has bin said already....most blokes are **** scared to go the DRs....coz they are afraid of being told the truth...

buttt....dont beat about the bush...(twould appear your past that stage).......talk to him properly....tell him how YOU feel...and your concerns.....BUTTT be prepared for him to tell YOU to do one....

problem solved.......simples.........

good luck....

# 19  2/2/14 12:37 PM

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Wylie wrote:

Enjoy the moment and if he really wants to go the distance with you, then that could be the catalysis for him to improve his lifestyle.

Maybe ....

# 20  2/2/14 12:39 PM

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TalentedAngel wrote:

Well I don't think you have to guess my view. 13 years on me and I'm glad I didn't listen to anyone. Go for it sweetie and enjoy every moment.

When I started writing was thinking about you guys.
If HM is around pls ask him ?  Could do with his thoughts

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