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# 1  7/2/13 12:12 PM

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IsThisItx This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Hi All - thank you for the advice you have all given me......I really appreciate it.

Quick question, if my husband is on this site and arranging to meet people - he says he wants to be with the ****, but then our **** life is really good - I don;t know where I stand.  Do you think that he is just using me or wants our relationship to work - and is just window shopping and finding someone nice to talk to???

# 2  7/2/13 1:45 PM

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Maybe he's here for the same reasons as you, whatever they are.  Does he know you're here?  Does he know you know HE's here?

# 3  7/2/13 1:51 PM

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Tough question.

Really no one can know what his motives are apart from him.

Perhaps he is feeling lonely, perhaps he craves more attention.
Possibly it is the excitement from an encounter that he is seeking.

It is just possible he isn't 100% certain what he is after.

You could try asking him, although how well that goes depends on what your relationship is like.

# 4  7/2/13 4:18 PM

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IsThisItx wrote:

Hi All - thank you for the advice you have all given me......I really appreciate it.

Quick question, if my husband is on this site and arranging to meet people - he says he wants to be with the ****, but then our **** life is really good - I don;t know where I stand.  Do you think that he is just using me or wants our relationship to work - and is just window shopping and finding someone nice to talk to???

most men use     you have  to tell him you are on here and that you know he is looking   I really think you should talk to someone

# 5  7/2/13 9:07 PM

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Any type of dating site is there to perform a task, to perform an introduction between two or more individuals.  Any one that joins a dating site does so to attempt to meet someone, whether that is to meet for company and a drink, a relationship, **** chat, **** **** or actually meeting to have ****.

People will say that they are here having a look around, but you have to ask why, when you know what the objectives of the site are!

If you are here you are here for a reason, yes there is a bit of a community here, and they are generally good sticks.  But we all knew what this site was about when we joined and the ultimate goal was to be naughty!

So ask yourself why are you here, and why do you think he is here?

# 6  7/2/13 9:22 PM

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ruby126228 wrote:

IsThisItx wrote:

Hi All - thank you for the advice you have all given me......I really appreciate it.

Quick question, if my husband is on this site and arranging to meet people - he says he wants to be with the ****, but then our **** life is really good - I don;t know where I stand.  Do you think that he is just using me or wants our relationship to work - and is just window shopping and finding someone nice to talk to???

most men use     you have  to tell him you are on here and that you know he is looking   I really think you should talk to someone

Hi sorry, what do you mean I should talk to someone - like who?

# 7  7/2/13 9:30 PM

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IsThisItx wrote:

ruby126228 wrote:

IsThisItx wrote:

Hi All - thank you for the advice you have all given me......I really appreciate it.

Quick question, if my husband is on this site and arranging to meet people - he says he wants to be with the ****, but then our **** life is really good - I don;t know where I stand.  Do you think that he is just using me or wants our relationship to work - and is just window shopping and finding someone nice to talk to???

most men use     you have  to tell him you are on here and that you know he is looking   I really think you should talk to someone

Hi sorry, what do you mean I should talk to someone - like who?

you should talk to your hubby!   just to be nosey did you join cos your  hubby did?

sorry if this is rude but he is telling you he is staying for the **** but looking elsewhere for **** /chat etc so your **** life cant be that great. if he was getting everything he needed from you and your relationship why would he look elsewhere and why would he tell you about it.

that being said all we can do is give our advice, experiences thoughts and opinions we aren't part of your marriage.  You need to talk and work out whether your marriage is finished or worth fighting for before you both look elsewhere or people will get hurt and it will get very messy.

seriously have it out with him, it maybe something you can fix but you have to talk.

# 8  7/2/13 9:30 PM

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IsThisItx wrote:

ruby126228 wrote:

IsThisItx wrote:

Hi All - thank you for the advice you have all given me......I really appreciate it.

Quick question, if my husband is on this site and arranging to meet people - he says he wants to be with the ****, but then our **** life is really good - I don;t know where I stand.  Do you think that he is just using me or wants our relationship to work - and is just window shopping and finding someone nice to talk to???

most men use     you have  to tell him you are on here and that you know he is looking   I really think you should talk to someone

Hi sorry, what do you mean I should talk to someone - like who?

marriage counselling  ......they are very helpful

# 9  7/2/13 10:46 PM

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Miss_Lovely1 wrote:

IsThisItx wrote:

ruby126228 wrote:


most men use     you have  to tell him you are on here and that you know he is looking   I really think you should talk to someone

Hi sorry, what do you mean I should talk to someone - like who?

you should talk to your hubby!   just to be nosey did you join cos your  hubby did?

sorry if this is rude but he is telling you he is staying for the **** but looking elsewhere for **** /chat etc so your **** life cant be that great. if he was getting everything he needed from you and your relationship why would he look elsewhere and why would he tell you about it.

that being said all we can do is give our advice, experiences thoughts and opinions we aren't part of your marriage.  You need to talk and work out whether your marriage is finished or worth fighting for before you both look elsewhere or people will get hurt and it will get very messy.

seriously have it out with him, it maybe something you can fix but you have to talk.

I'm going to have to go with MS L on this one....

And I have another q....in both your posts you make reference to what HE wants...to what HE says....but no mention as to your own feelings about this. You haven't said whether you actually WANT him back ....or must we assume that because you've allowed him home that you do want him back? Is it because you want HIM back...or because you're too scared to move forward on your own? Are you allowing him back because of the ****? Does it bother you that he is on here looking for other **** partners?
Like Ms L and others have said....we're offering our opinions....but you're talking to the wrong people...there is only ONE person you should speak to and that's the man you profess loves you. And there's only one question you have to answer.....can you fall asleep at night without any tears and with a dull ache in your heart over what has been done to you?  If you can then really....why ask about your possible solutions....his actions don't bother you and you obviously can and have moved beyond caring what he does

# 10  7/2/13 11:39 PM

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Gavin009 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Hmm the chicken and egg, a lot of things have happened to you as a couple and I fear it is the economic situation that is keeping two people that are not happy and not sure what to do next.There is one question that I am curious about.How many times has he cheated, if it is only once and lets face it BE NAUGHTY was the mechanism for this encounter was he letting his testicles doing his thinking and got carried away before realizing that his curiuosity got him into trouble. Both of you need to talk openly and honestly to each other and seek counselling if you are intending to stay together. From what you have written things cannot go back to what they were, I suspect his **** needs have been influenced by seeing , reading from other peoples experiences some thing that interests him that you do not have an interest in yet. Talk and redress new boundaries for your marriage and relationship, there is hope for you yet, AND NO GOING OUTSIDE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR WHAT EVER REASON UNTIL THIS IS DONE.

# 11  7/3/13 12:23 AM

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IsThisItx wrote:

Hi All - thank you for the advice you have all given me......I really appreciate it.

Quick question, if my husband is on this site and arranging to meet people - he says he wants to be with the ****, but then our **** life is really good - I don;t know where I stand.  Do you think that he is just using me or wants our relationship to work - and is just window shopping and finding someone nice to talk to???

Throw back the question to you, why are YOU here?

# 12  7/3/13 11:38 AM

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karsic_karl This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Another thought.

Has he expressed an interest in a particular bedroom activity that isn't to your tastes?

Possibly he is trying to subtely/unsubtely goad you into doing it with the threat that he could eaily find some one else who will.

It is possible to be on this site, meet people from it, and not go rummaging around in their underwear.

# 13  7/3/13 11:47 AM

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ruby126228 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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try talking about spicing up your **** life  .....  if you want to that is?   

try introducing different things that you both want

when I saw married men most used to say their wives got boring in the bedroom so worth a try

if it has got to the point where you don't want to go near each other then maybe its time to let go ?

a lot of men think the grass is greener on the other side... age can play a part  .. ive been with my hubby 27 yrs in August and it can get a **** stale.... spice it up

# 14  8/9/13 3:44 PM

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Sounds like he is a prize pratt to me! Kick him out and live your life - you deserve it.

# 15  8/9/13 11:17 PM

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just greedy....

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