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Boyfriend doesn't wanna get down there.

# 1  5/18/13 9:01 AM

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NickofNotts This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Have you talked to him and asked him why ? Maybe its because he has never done it before and doesn't know what to do.If thi i the cae he probably feel inadequate.  The first time we don't know where to stick our tongue and which bit to **** and how hard. We do learn and some women will tell you what good for them and what isn't.
I presume you don't have any foreplay then,he is missing some of the best thing about ****. It not all about getting inside as quick as possible and doing the deed...well it was when I was 18 but have learnt a lot since then.
Explain that its what you need, have a night in the week just for experimenting on each other, trying something new or ****, guide him through it and he might like it.
Hope this helps...good luck

# 2  5/18/13 9:36 AM

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You might have to to hold back on the Bj's you give to him, it should be a give and take relationship, it is him that's being selfish,....not you.

# 3  5/18/13 9:39 AM

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tell him its full of ice cream and needs to go deep to get it

# 4  5/18/13 10:02 AM

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Jelluy wrote:

He has done it on two girls and just flat out doesn't want to. It's a bit frustrating when I give him gobs at least once a day and he just, doesn't understand that sometimes it has to be about me too. I'm not sure how to approach it because I don't want to seem insensitive or selfish!

No you are not selfish, in a relationship it is give and take, he seem like he is taking all the time without giving.Maybe it is a sign of things to come. Dump him and find a man who will treat you properly and see to your every needs.

# 5  5/18/13 1:05 PM

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Your bf is a selfish git hon....and believe me love don't overcome everything! If he ain't giving any...why are you? Please...you're young and gorgeous....go and get a man who knows how to use his mouth...oh and his tongue...and his fingers...get the pic? Stop giving him head...maybe he'll start using his head and realise what a **** his being!

# 6  5/18/13 8:27 PM

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Assuming you're clean down there, then he is not only denying you a great deal of pleasure, but he is denying himself.

# 7  5/18/13 8:35 PM

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Jelluy wrote:

Thanks guys, you've been a great help. I think you're right, hold back on the gobs. I like this plan, hopefully he gets his act together right?

But uh, in your opinions, should I make it apparent that's WHY i'm not going there? Or just see how long it takes?

if u wait an see how long it takes he will get it elsewhere. men arent good with hints.

You need to have a conversation with him. tell him **** is about sharing and intimacy an you are missing out. ask him why he wont do it an if its because he is scared/doesnt know how. tell him you will have fun teaching him. If he doesnt want to do it cos he is a selfish git tell him in no uncertain terms that he wont be getting any more blow jobs till he comes round to your way of thinking.

An if that dont work dump his **** an get yourself a new improved an better model

# 8  5/18/13 9:03 PM

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zaenia This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Miss_Lovely1 wrote:

Jelluy wrote:

Thanks guys, you've been a great help. I think you're right, hold back on the gobs. I like this plan, hopefully he gets his act together right?

But uh, in your opinions, should I make it apparent that's WHY i'm not going there? Or just see how long it takes?

if u wait an see how long it takes he will get it elsewhere. men arent good with hints.

You need to have a conversation with him. tell him **** is about sharing and intimacy an you are missing out. ask him why he wont do it an if its because he is scared/doesnt know how. tell him you will have fun teaching him. If he doesnt want to do it cos he is a selfish git tell him in no uncertain terms that he wont be getting any more blow jobs till he comes round to your way of thinking.

An if that dont work dump his **** an get yourself a new improved an better model

Ms L is right.....men don' do hints.....hit him over his head with the truth and if he comes up with some **** excuse.....drop his ****....

# 9  5/19/13 9:06 AM

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Jelluy wrote:

I wasn't sure where to put this (don't hate me if this is the wrong area)

But I have a bit of a problem.

My boyfriend won't go down on me, he rarely even fingers me. I am clean shaven, he says that I don't smell, but he just won't do it. I love him, but I'm starting to get a bit frustrated.

Any tips on how to sorta... Get him to want to?

Yep!!! Trade him in for a new model

# 10  5/19/13 9:48 AM

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TalentedAngel wrote:

Jelluy wrote:

I wasn't sure where to put this (don't hate me if this is the wrong area)

But I have a bit of a problem.

My boyfriend won't go down on me, he rarely even fingers me. I am clean shaven, he says that I don't smell, but he just won't do it. I love him, but I'm starting to get a bit frustrated.

Any tips on how to sorta... Get him to want to?

Yep!!! Trade him in for a new model

Yeh I agree trade him in!  Seriously, tackle him on why.  I might be he is frightened of hurting you, or has had a bad experience in the past.

# 11  5/23/13 2:05 PM

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well its his lost just move on

# 12  5/23/13 5:31 PM

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smartyarse This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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now this is an easy problem to solve.

he prob doesnt like the taste, so all you have to do is get some flavoured lube, slap a bit on and hey presto your happy ending!!

let me know if this works as tbh its kinda unacceptable for a man not to go down on a woman especially if you are giving him head!!!

# 13  8/20/13 3:25 PM

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I could give my right arm form giving you what you whant without any demands

# 14  8/24/13 11:56 PM

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another option is to tie him up and sit on his face and make him do it ofc lol dominate him and see what he thinks, if he doesn't like it and still wont tell you why or do anything to show you proper true intimate intimacy then he really is not worth it.

# 15  8/24/13 11:59 PM

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some12hug85 wrote:

another option is to tie him up and sit on his face and make him do it ofc lol dominate him and see what he thinks, if he doesn't like it and still wont tell you why or do anything to show you proper true intimate intimacy then he really is not worth it.

rather forcing the issue......although the direct approach has worked often for me

# 16  8/25/13 12:01 AM

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JacqTre2 wrote:

some12hug85 wrote:

another option is to tie him up and sit on his face and make him do it ofc lol dominate him and see what he thinks, if he doesn't like it and still wont tell you why or do anything to show you proper true intimate intimacy then he really is not worth it.

rather forcing the issue......although the direct approach has worked often for me

indeed it is a risky move but what else can you do if all else fails and your not getting what you so badly want? i have a wicked naughty side to me at times and love exploring things. There has been a number of great posts of advice to be honest

# 17  8/25/13 12:11 AM

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JacqTre2 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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some12hug85 wrote:

JacqTre2 wrote:

some12hug85 wrote:

another option is to tie him up and sit on his face and make him do it ofc lol dominate him and see what he thinks, if he doesn't like it and still wont tell you why or do anything to show you proper true intimate intimacy then he really is not worth it.

rather forcing the issue......although the direct approach has worked often for me

indeed it is a risky move but what else can you do if all else fails and your not getting what you so badly want? i have a wicked naughty side to me at times and love exploring things. There has been a number of great posts of advice to be honest

Depends on what you want most, I suppose...... the relationship over the **** chemistry or vice versa.

It is generally about getting the right balance between all elements, there are many different
variations and finding someone who is the same or very simular and you can be on to a winner

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