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Second name is not mine

# 1  12/24/13 9:47 AM

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funnyUnicorn This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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I'm divorced for almost 2 years, but I still have my **** husband's second name. He’s dating with others already and I'm fine with that. I'm wondering should I change it to mine or keep it as an admire that I should be more attentive next time.

# 2  12/24/13 10:35 AM

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ambrosia This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Hereford
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I changed my name back to my maiden name on my divorce. He wanted to mess around so why would I keep his name?

# 3  12/25/13 5:46 PM

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rosewine This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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I come from a very small community so I was always called by my maiden name by **** and friends so no one really noticed any difference when I officially changed it back.

# 4  1/1/14 4:40 AM

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wwway01 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Sorry ladies , but I cannot understand why one would keep their "married" name after the crummy louse left me ...lol

If you get a divorce, means you do not love him any more (or he does not love you) so why keep a bad memory that smacks you in the chops every time you get a letter or get introduced to others?

But hey I am a male, what do I know

# 5  1/1/14 1:47 PM

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DD_67 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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I've kept my married name.  It wasn't all bad, we had some good times, we had some fabulous chidren, all of whom have his name, so why would i want to sweep it all under the carpet and pretend it never existed?

I know not everyone would feel the same, but this is how i look at it.

# 6  1/2/14 12:59 AM

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wwway01 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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DD_67 wrote:

I've kept my married name.  It wasn't all bad, we had some good times, we had some fabulous chidren, all of whom have his name, so why would i want to sweep it all under the carpet and pretend it never existed?

I know not everyone would feel the same, but this is how i look at it.

See?  What do I know ..lol

# 7  1/20/14 10:50 AM

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TalentedAngel This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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I still used my married name after my divorce but not for very long and thinking about it, I have never changed it on my email address

# 8  1/21/14 8:48 PM

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sparttz This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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In my candid opinion with respect to the woman who is answering the second name of her ****,for me it's fine no hard feelings,live and let live a goose who lays a golden egg should be fought for and be protected...

# 9  2/14/14 12:50 PM

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texmax13 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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funnyUnicorn wrote:

I'm divorced for almost 2 years, but I still have my **** husband's second name. He’s dating with others already and I'm fine with that. I'm wondering should I change it to mine or keep it as an admire that I should be more attentive next time.

Maybe you should record your new lover screaming it out as he begs for more???

# 10  2/14/14 12:56 PM

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metallica This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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texmax13 wrote:

funnyUnicorn wrote:

I'm divorced for almost 2 years, but I still have my **** husband's second name. He’s dating with others already and I'm fine with that. I'm wondering should I change it to mine or keep it as an admire that I should be more attentive next time.

Maybe you should record your new lover screaming it out as he begs for more???

ahhh...a NUMAN indeed....

# 11  2/14/14 3:19 PM

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A-Woman This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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I am asking myself a similar question. My tendency is to go to my maiden name however there are some points that my divorce attorney mentioned
- My **** has her ****'s last name , do I want her to have a different one than me?
- Professionally,  I am very well known by my married name so if I change it, would that impact me?
- Married 24 years so it's very long time...some people only know me by married name.

Even  with the above arguments I am going back to my maiden name as it  is who I am and want myself  back again

# 12  2/14/14 5:15 PM

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metallica This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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A-Woman wrote:

I am asking myself a similar question. My tendency is to go to my maiden name however there are some points that my divorce attorney mentioned
- My **** has her ****'s last name , do I want her to have a different one than me?
- Professionally,  I am very well known by my married name so if I change it, would that impact me?
- Married 24 years so it's very long time...some people only know me by married name.

Even  with the above arguments I am going back to my maiden name as it  is who I am and want myself  back again

exactly.....new start new name....let the world deal with it...

# 13  2/14/14 11:21 PM

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Kadu12 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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It's far to much hassle for me, changing everything back over to my maiden name when after all it is only a name. It doesn't make me a different person no matter what I'm called

I probably should point out that after 6 years of being apart we've still not bothered with a divorce! So the hassle of changing names kinda falls in line

# 14  2/14/14 11:40 PM

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Miss_lovely1 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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A-Woman wrote:

I am asking myself a similar question. My tendency is to go to my maiden name however there are some points that my divorce attorney mentioned
- My **** has her ****'s last name , do I want her to have a different one than me?
- Professionally,  I am very well known by my married name so if I change it, would that impact me?
- Married 24 years so it's very long time...some people only know me by married name.

Even  with the above arguments I am going back to my maiden name as it  is who I am and want myself  back again

why not keep the married name just for work/professional reasons then outta work use your maiden name

In my line of work its very common to do that or when u get married the first time to still use your maiden name.


that being said my biological **** kept my biologicals fathers surname when she divorced him and when her lover dumped her gave her new **** her **** husbands surname,  I think thats wrong as she gave that **** someone elses **** name and history

# 15  2/15/14 7:11 AM

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metallica This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Kadu12 wrote:

It's far to much hassle for me, changing everything back over to my maiden name when after all it is only a name. It doesn't make me a different person no matter what I'm called

I probably should point out that after 6 years of being apart we've still not bothered with a divorce! So the hassle of changing names kinda falls in line

divorces cost money....loadsamoney....mine cost 1200 quid back in 1992/3...

and not getting divorced could be even more costly in the future.....as sum peoples that i know are experiencing..

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