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Number of chats, message, winks etc you all get?

# 1  4/10/12 1:49 PM

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NaughtyNicholas This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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Hi. I'm new here and I'm curious about how many times you are each
contacted everyday? Just about the only contacts I've gotten have
been **** which are very very tiring to go through.

I'm curious if you each are overwhelmed by contacts from genuine
guys so much so that you can't respond or even look at them all or
if its more like a few messages here and there?

Your input would really help me out. Thanks in advance.

# 2  4/10/12 2:23 PM

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yes unless the women invoke invisibility we get absolutely swamped with winks, chat messages and mails. While very flattering it can detract from why we are here. The polite ones get a response but the rude, abusive ones go straight to trash where they belong. Trouble is most guys don't bother reading profiles but just look at a picture and react with their other brain
Welcome to the forums NaughtyNick ****

# 3  4/10/12 9:40 PM

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Yeh I only signed up today and I have had loads of messages and winks. I'm only 18 and there have been a lot of older men messaging me which is king of off putting. I don't really respond unless they are a similar age to me and have similar interests.

# 4  4/10/12 9:43 PM

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sarah45757 wrote:

Yeh I only signed up today and I have had loads of messages and winks. I'm only 18 and there have been a lot of older men messaging me which is king of off putting. I don't really respond unless they are a similar age to me and have similar interests.

um but you state u are '18' put ur **** on show ..er what do u think ur gonna attract.... get real!

# 5  4/10/12 9:45 PM

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patti16211 wrote:

sarah45757 wrote:

Yeh I only signed up today and I have had loads of messages and winks. I'm only 18 and there have been a lot of older men messaging me which is king of off putting. I don't really respond unless they are a similar age to me and have similar interests.

um but you state u are '18' put ur **** on show ..er what do u think ur gonna attract.... get real!

She's got a full length photo, what are you on about?

Welcome Sarah

# 6  4/10/12 9:47 PM

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patti16211 wrote:

sarah45757 wrote:

Yeh I only signed up today and I have had loads of messages and winks. I'm only 18 and there have been a lot of older men messaging me which is king of off putting. I don't really respond unless they are a similar age to me and have similar interests.

um but you state u are '18' put ur **** on show ..er what do u think ur gonna attract.... get real!

Unless the girl's arms are on back to front it doesn't look like a picture of her **** to me and even it it was she's entitled to speak of her experience based on the topic of the thread. 

Welcome to the forum Sarah

# 7  4/10/12 9:49 PM

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patti16211 wrote:

sarah45757 wrote:

Yeh I only signed up today and I have had loads of messages and winks. I'm only 18 and there have been a lot of older men messaging me which is king of off putting. I don't really respond unless they are a similar age to me and have similar interests.

um but you state u are '18' put ur **** on show ..er what do u think ur gonna attract.... get real!

Do you just not like young girls or something

Always biting there heads of

Even if she was **** with a cucumber up her **** .  .Old men shoudnt contact people young enough to be there ****

Edit welcome to the forum

and thankyou ****

# 8  4/10/12 9:51 PM

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patti16211 wrote:

sarah45757 wrote:

Yeh I only signed up today and I have had loads of messages and winks. I'm only 18 and there have been a lot of older men messaging me which is king of off putting. I don't really respond unless they are a similar age to me and have similar interests.

um but you state u are '18' put ur **** on show ..er what do u think ur gonna attract.... get real!

18 to 25 yo men?

Sarah, check your mail settings to make sure your "autoreplies" are switched off, as they get sent on your behalf for example when someone browses your profile.  It might be encouraging some men you wouldn't be interested in to get in touch. The other thing is that you could make your profile invisible although that does mean you have to do all the searches and initial mail messages, rather then waiting for people to contact you.

Stick around the forum and join in - there's at least one male 75 year old in your age range posting on here.  He's so **** he has to disguise his age.   Oops there he is ^^^

Dee

# 9  4/10/12 9:58 PM

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NaughtyNicholas wrote:

Hi. I'm new here and I'm curious about how many times you are each
contacted everyday? Just about the only contacts I've gotten have
been **** which are very very tiring to go through.

I'm curious if you each are overwhelmed by contacts from genuine
guys so much so that you can't respond or even look at them all or
if its more like a few messages here and there?

Your input would really help me out. Thanks in advance.

And to answer YOUR question, i get very few messages and mails.  I'm invisible in searches as i'm not looking for anyone and i'm only here for the forum, so that does cut down on a lot of the 'traffic'.  To answer another of your questions, i read and reply to any that i get, because i do have time and it's not hard for me to say thanks but no thanks.  The girls who aren't invisible in searches will likely get many more messages and choose to ignore most of them.

# 10  4/11/12 12:40 AM

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Okay, thanks for your responses guys. It's pretty much what
I expected. The reason I asked is because I'm not on this site
just to mess around, I want something to happen. And if the girls
I'm sending messages to are inundated with just too many then there
is no point for me to continue here. I'm a good guy, I know that
but it's very difficult to convey who I am through messages which
may not even be read. So ultimately I think the site is not for me.
Thanks again for taking the time to respond.

# 11  4/11/12 12:51 AM

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If you look at the advice threads in the Read First section there are some tips about how to increase your chances - but you are up against the numbers and it's not cheap to join.

Dee

# 12  4/11/12 2:56 AM

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Dee1970 wrote:

If you look at the advice threads in the Read First section there are some tips about how to increase your chances - but you are up against the numbers and it's not cheap to join.

Dee

Yeah Dee, that's exactly it. I could be the perfect guy (I'm not) and
follow all the rules and tips about how to increase my chances, how to
create my profile and how to relate to people online but ultimately I don't
think it'd make that much of a difference and that my effort would be better
spent elsewhere (especially when factoring in the ****). It's also appearing
that this is more of a social site rather than a dating one which is fine if
that's what they want. Thanks for your comment.

# 13  4/11/12 3:20 PM

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i only get winks mainly and chat from usa females and other countried and none from uk but i belive most men and ladies lie about their age to get what they want sadly i do not and my profile is total genune and honest

# 14  4/13/12 8:58 AM

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I also get lots of winks and chat requests from young girls in US or UK etc. I just ingore. I usually don't respond to anyone under the 35 to 40 yr old range. I would love it if someone could tell me how to stop the **** trying to get you onto **** sites.

# 15  4/13/12 9:02 AM

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NaughtyNicholas wrote:

Hi. I'm new here and I'm curious about how many times you are each
contacted everyday? Just about the only contacts I've gotten have
been **** which are very very tiring to go through.

I'm curious if you each are overwhelmed by contacts from genuine
guys so much so that you can't respond or even look at them all or
if its more like a few messages here and there?

Your input would really help me out. Thanks in advance.

More than I can read, most I have to delete. Welcome to the forum to all the newbies

# 16  4/13/12 10:27 AM

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freeandeasy38 wrote:

I also get lots of winks and chat requests from young girls in US or UK etc. I just ingore. I usually don't respond to anyone under the 35 to 40 yr old range. I would love it if someone could tell me how to stop the **** trying to get you onto **** sites.

Maybe I'm just TOOOOOO suspicious, but it wouldn't be that the sites themselves are the **** could they?

Welcome to the site and enjoy the forums.

# 17  4/13/12 10:32 AM

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DD_67 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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A gentle reminder about what this thread is about.  It's NOT about ****.  We have threads for that here: http://www.benaughty.com/forum/Read-first/topic/37359

NaughtyNicholas wrote:

Hi. I'm new here and I'm curious about how many times you are each
contacted everyday? Just about the only contacts I've gotten have
been **** which are very very tiring to go through.

I'm curious if you each are overwhelmed by contacts from genuine
guys so much so that you can't respond or even look at them all or
if its more like a few messages here and there?

Your input would really help me out. Thanks in advance.

DD

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