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Hornier than in my 20's . . . .

# 1  4/15/11 7:33 PM

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Weasle73 This member uses the Web version of BeNaughty
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. . . . . .But without the social network!

Is it just me or is meeting people when you're in your 30's becomes just a bit (alot) harder? And when you do meet people they are a bit less accepting, after all, youre in your 30's you must be secure and confident in yourself? Well I am, but that doesn't mean I don't need to meet new people and make new friends does it?

Give me your thoughts lovely people of BN.

# 2  4/15/11 7:44 PM

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Weasle73 wrote:

. . . . . .But without the social network!

Is it just me or is meeting people when you're in your 30's becomes just a bit (alot) harder? And when you do meet people they are a bit less accepting, after all, youre in your 30's you must be secure and confident in yourself? Well I am, but that doesn't mean I don't need to meet new people and make new friends does it?

Give me your thoughts lovely people of BN.

Oh, and I guess I'd better mention, my **** drive is higher than it ever was in my 20's, I want it all day every day, and if you'd let me I would!

# 3  4/15/11 7:49 PM

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You need bromide, mate. 

I've always been crap at meeting people, so I don't notice a difference now.   But I guess more people are paired off or scared off in their 30s and 40s.  You've just got to keep mixing in new places and stay open to opportunities.

What barriers do you actually come up against?

Dee

# 4  4/15/11 8:05 PM

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Dee1970 wrote:

You need bromide, mate. 

I've always been crap at meeting people, so I don't notice a difference now.   But I guess more people are paired off or scared off in their 30s and 40s.  You've just got to keep mixing in new places and stay open to opportunities.

What barriers do you actually come up against?

Dee

Well, I'm 37, I just moved 100 miles from my home **** and friends in search of a new career, new friends, and maybe a new love, so far the career is going ok. I guess I work a bit too much, so that doesn't help the socialising, and I'm not one to go to the pub on my own. So I guess I have to find an interest that involves meeting people? But what to do?

# 5  4/15/11 8:09 PM

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Weasle73 wrote:

Well, I'm 37, I just moved 100 miles from my home **** and friends in search of a new career, new friends, and maybe a new love, so far the career is going ok. I guess I work a bit too much, so that doesn't help the socialising, and I'm not one to go to the pub on my own. So I guess I have to find an interest that involves meeting people? But what to do?

I find courses are working well for me lately.

I can't click with people in pubs or other situations where it's such a brief opportunity to get to know them and flirt.  Pretty much because I'm so rubbish at flirting and even worse at judging what signals I'm getting back! Somewhere you get a few opportunities to test the waters is better for me.

# 6  4/15/11 8:15 PM

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Dee1970 wrote:

Weasle73 wrote:

Well, I'm 37, I just moved 100 miles from my home **** and friends in search of a new career, new friends, and maybe a new love, so far the career is going ok. I guess I work a bit too much, so that doesn't help the socialising, and I'm not one to go to the pub on my own. So I guess I have to find an interest that involves meeting people? But what to do?

I find courses are working well for me lately.

I can't click with people in pubs or other situations where it's such a brief opportunity to get to know them and flirt.  Pretty much because I'm so rubbish at flirting and even worse at judging what signals I'm getting back! Somewhere you get a few opportunities to test the waters is better for me.

Thats good, I like it, same people every week, gives you a chance to build up some kind of relationship. Almost like a try before you buy, lol

Cheers hun, thats a goer for me. xx

# 7  4/15/11 8:16 PM

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Weasle73 wrote:

Dee1970 wrote:

Weasle73 wrote:

Well, I'm 37, I just moved 100 miles from my home **** and friends in search of a new career, new friends, and maybe a new love, so far the career is going ok. I guess I work a bit too much, so that doesn't help the socialising, and I'm not one to go to the pub on my own. So I guess I have to find an interest that involves meeting people? But what to do?

I find courses are working well for me lately.

I can't click with people in pubs or other situations where it's such a brief opportunity to get to know them and flirt.  Pretty much because I'm so rubbish at flirting and even worse at judging what signals I'm getting back! Somewhere you get a few opportunities to test the waters is better for me.

Thats good, I like it, same people every week, gives you a chance to build up some kind of relationship. Almost like a try before you buy, lol

Cheers hun, thats a goer for me. xx

And we all like a goer.

# 8  4/15/11 8:48 PM

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Just_Call_Me_Red wrote:

I don't think it is harder, I think you have a better idea of what you are looking for by then, you know what you don't like and you know what you want.  You dont want to settle, you want what you have been missing all your life.  I recently found myself over 40 and looking, I don't go to bars, I worked 60-80 hours a week and I don't date men that I work with, not a lot of oppurtunities. 

Honestly, it is about the numbers the more you meet the more likely you will find what you are looking for. I am active in my community, I volunteer with various charities, I took classes, and I joined sports teams.  I met lots of people.  I was looking for something very specific and finally found it on BN.  However, with that said if you are just looking for some fun then get out there and meet people.  I could have been having **** every free moment.  Get out there smile and say hello, good luck!

Jeez, woman! Where do you get the energy!  But you're absolutely right, it's about meeting new people and being alert to who's interested.  Glad you found what you were looking for here.


Dee

# 9  4/15/11 9:30 PM

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Dee1970 wrote:

You need bromide, mate. 

I've always been crap at meeting people, so I don't notice a difference now.   But I guess more people are paired off or scared off in their 30s and 40s.  You've just got to keep mixing in new places and stay open to opportunities.

What barriers do you actually come up against?

Dee

I agree, and its so hard to tell who is not because the biggest flirts are the attached, and the scared put up barriers.

# 10  4/15/11 9:36 PM

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I never flirt but in the bedroom I'm an absolute ****, but only for my **** man, he doesn't give me time for any others

# 11  4/15/11 9:53 PM

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TalentedAngel wrote:

I never flirt but in the bedroom I'm an absolute ****, but only for my **** man, he doesn't give me time for any others

pfft, , you are a big flirt on here

# 12  4/18/11 3:00 AM

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Some good advice here.  Be open, be available and, most of all, be happy.  Women (and men) like to meet and mingle with smiling, happy people.  Why would anyone choose the miserable looking guy when that **** guy over there looks like he's having such a good time?

I had lots of trouble in the past but now I just relax and let things happen.  I started saying hello instead of just nodding.  When a lady smiled at me I smiled back.  The more I relaxed, the better things worked.  And yeah, some of the attached ones are the biggest flirts.  But some of them are much more, too.  If you're not put off by the ring and you're both having fun then just enjoy the moment.  You never know what might happen.

The worst thing to do though is make it all about the ****.  The **** is like dessert ... there's the multi-course **** that might come before and you don't want to miss it.  Dessert tastes best after a really good meal.

# 13  3/29/13 11:16 PM

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TalentedAngel wrote:

I never flirt but in the bedroom I'm an absolute ****, but only for my **** man, he doesn't give me time for any others

don't know how to flirt with a girl well I do a litter bit

# 14  3/29/13 11:26 PM

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just wrote:

TalentedAngel wrote:

I never flirt but in the bedroom I'm an absolute ****, but only for my **** man, he doesn't give me time for any others

don't know how to flirt with a girl well I do a litter bit

Me either

# 15  3/30/13 1:57 AM

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when i was in my twenties i dated plenty of friends of friends and never really did the whole pulling in a nite club thing. seemed like too much hard work chatting to women that you liked the look of and then work out if you liked them. much easier just chatting to women that i knew as there is less pressure and it doesnt feel like an "audition!"

now in my thirties i have moved to a different country and dont have the "security blanket" of a big social circle where i can pick and choose under the radar. so i have had to rethink my game plan towards meeting women and have found that online is best for me.

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