Yes, I know the past few months have been kinda quiet for the formerly proliferous blogger. John and I just celebrated our 6 month anniversary of dating. My how time flies (and yet drags when you are so far apart). I have been trying to keep active on the forums but there are so many newbies (this is a good thing) that I can hardly keep up with saying hi and helping to welcome them all. So on that note I am choosing to blog today about the BN EXPERIENCE. And I hope you may all take a minute and share yours.
The easiest way to get noticed on BN is to join in the forums. With a positive attitude. While we do notice the whiners and people having a moan everyone knows its more fun to hang out with the happy people. Talk to people the way you would like to be spoken to. Its ok to be honest but there is no real need for meaness or rudeness. Especially as you most likely only know these people in the most superficial way. Be friendly and reach out, I am especially bad at this but, I find myself getting to know and really like some people I never really spoke to even though we have all been very active on the forums. Being already coupled up with John makes me reach out less (and makes some people reach out to me less) as there is no possiblilty of meeting. However, I am talking to some lovely people and have made some friends that will carry over into the real world. You cant do better than that.
Another seemingly obvious suggestion to help you get them most out of your experience here is to read the rules posted in the forums. I know it seems basic and boring when everyone is flirting and having a good time. It only takes a few minutes and keeps our new friends from having their hands slapped for some seemingly innocuous mistake. There is also some good advice in there (READ FIRST section) to help you write a better profile and things of that nature. There are posts on what women want, and how to garner the attention you are looking for from the opposite ****.
The blogs are another great way to get noticed, especially if you are of a more serious nature. The blogs allow you to share bits of yourself and personality through your writing. While people can comment on your blogs it seems to avoid the endless rounds of flirting seen in the forums. I know of several rather serious relationships that have developed on BN from writing on the blogs. And all of them seem to have some staying power.
Hope to see you all posting in one area or the other as soon as possible.
Sep 26, 09 6:06 PM