Bent out of shape

I like to think of myself as reasonably well-adjusted, but now I'm not so sure.

I had a chat with someone recently and they asked me what I think about something. I told them, and they said they weren't convonced by my answer. Anyway, after a **** pressure I blurted out what I really thought, the essence of which was that I didn't trust them. (Them being a lady.)

This upset her quite a bit, and she let me have it gently with a bit of a "Why don't you trust me?" rant.

Well she has a point. She's done nothing for me to not trust her, in fact she's been golden. But due to a bad experience with exes, I'm loathe to trust women now. I don't mean that in a maniacly suspicious way, but just in a practical day to day cautious way.

I've lived a double life of deception for so long now, that distrust seems to have wormed its way into my DNA. I mean as a married man, the irony is not lost on me: I'm hardly the most trustworthy person in the world because if I was, I wouldn't be here. But it still came as a bit of a surprise to realise that, no, I don't trust her. Not because she's untrustworthy, but because I'm distrusting. I dunno, I'm old enough now to have picked up some baggage, so I suppose it's only to be expected that I have the odd issue here and there.

Oh well, I might be a bit bent out of shape, but I'm not broken.

Jun 7, 14 7:10 PM


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Reply to ambrosia69
Ooh! That's a very good point. ****

6/8/14 6:55 PM

they do say that you see guilt in others when it is really your own guilt that you are projecting. Having said that as I have been cheated on a number of times by my **** partners I don't trust men at all now and I know a few women who feel the same. Maybe trust these days needs to worked at much harder

6/7/14 9:27 PM

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